You don’t need to become harder to survive this world.
You don’t need more discipline, more pushing, more self-abandonment.
You need safety.
You need rhythm.
Join the Softening Movement!
How to Radically Soften: A Liberation Practice is a guided, somatic practice for Black Women who have been living in the necessity of strength and survival. It’s for those of us that are ready to release over-functioning so as to experience ease, presence, and self-trust.
The increased feelings of safety from the inside out added to improved discernment about people and relationships, ultimately allows us to experience a “softening”. And the part no one tells us about is this..
Soft is not weak. Soft is grounded. Soft is powerfully resourced. Soft is strong.
This space is for you if…
You’re exhausted from holding everything together
You’ve lived in survival mode so long it feels like your personality
You’re the “strong one” and secretly resent it
You feel disconnected from your body, your joy, or your intuition
You’re healing, but tired of healing that feels like homework
You crave rest, clarity, and softness without guilt
WHO THIS IS FOR
Especially if you are:
A Black woman or femme
Neurodivergent (late-diagnosed or self-identified)
Carrying generational, ancestral, or cultural armor
Done with performative wellness practices that feel like a patchwork of Bandaids
If any of that made you exhale?
You’re in the right place.
WHAT THIS IS (AND ISN’T)
What How to Radically Soften is:
An 11-module guided practice, not a hustle-y self-improvement course
Rooted in nervous system care, somatics, ancestral wisdom, and the Lived Black Experience
Designed to support safety, embodiment, clarity, and sustainable change
A gentle but honest unlearning of over-functioning, guilt, and capitalist grind culture
A return to your own internal rhythm
What this is not:
A “positive vibes only” situation
A productivity hack in disguise
A bypass of anger, grief, or rage
A program that asks you to heal faster than your body allows
No fixing.
No forcing.
No pretending.
WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT
In this practice, we explore:
Why your body learned to armor up
How to feel safe inside yourself
When softness is protection—not vulnerability
How joy becomes a rebellion
Why rage is sacred data
How to integrate healing into real life (not just journaling)
This is about living differently, not just understanding differently.
About Your Guide
Hi, I’m Thema
I’m a licensed mental health counselor, mindset coach, Reiki Adept, Teacher and Practitioner, and a former rapper who knows what it means to perform strength while quietly coming undone. My work is rooted in a decolonized practice and centers supporting Black and Brown people, specifically women and femmes.
How to Radically Soften began as something I needed for myself and it’s the offering I wish had existed when I was burnt out, armored up, and disconnected from my own soft and tender spaces.
And so, I built it.
I built it for those who are used to being the one everyone counts on, those who rarely get to put the weight down, and those who’ve mastered holding it together.
I built it as a bridge for you to finally come home, to yourself because...
(aka Bless Roxwell)
You are allowed to rest without earning it.
You are allowed to choose yourself. and soften without apology.
This is not mindset-only work or healing as performance.
This experience is:
Nervous system–informed
Somatically grounded
Culturally aware
Rooted in safety, not urgency
You will not be rushed.
You will not be “fixed.”
You will be supported in learning how to live softer on purpose.
If you’re ready to stop surviving and start inhabiting your life…
Welcome to
How to Radically Soften
PRICING
This is your invitation to begin.
No pressure. No performance. No urgency.
Foundational Tier: “The Soft Landing”
$297
Perfect for: Folks who want to begin softening at their own pace, gently and privately.
Includes:
Full access to all core course modules
Guided audio + video teachings
Reflection workbook & practices
Nervous system tracking tools
Lifetime access
The Soft Landing gives you everything you need to start releasing armor, reconnecting with your body, and practicing softness on your own terms.
Come as you are. Move at your speed. You don’t need to be ready. You just need to be willing.
Supported Tier: “The Regulated Life”
This tier is for those who know they don’t need to do this alone.
$597
Perfect for: Folks who want guidance, accountability, and a little “hold my hand but don’t rush me” energy.
Includes everything in The Soft Landing, plus:
Bonus integration practices
Extended somatic support tools
1–2 live or recorded Q&A / integration sessions
Priority access to future offerings
The Regulated Life offers deeper support for integrating softness into your actual day-to-day of work, relationships, boundaries, rest, and joy.
Still gentle. Still spacious.
Just a little more held.
Premium, 1:1 Tier “The Soft Reclamation”
This is deep work, done softly.
Perfect for: Folks ready to be witnessed, supported, and guided closely.
Includes everything above, plus:
3–4 private 1:1 sessions with you
Personalized nervous system mapping
Custom integration support
Priority email access
The Soft Reclamation is for those ready to unravel survival patterns with intentional support, care, and presence.
You don’t have to explain yourself here.
You lead. I walk with you.
$1,197+
Frequently Asked Questions
Still have questions? Take a look at the FAQ or reach out anytime. If you’re feeling ready, go ahead and click the button below!
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No. This is an educational, somatic, and reflective practice. It is not a substitute for therapy, though many people use it alongside therapy.
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Not at all. Everything is explained gently and accessibly. No background required.
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Fully self-paced. You can move through it in your own time, return to modules as needed, and revisit practices whenever your body asks for them.
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There is no deadline. Some people move through a module a week; others take longer. This practice honors your rhythm.
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This work is centered on Black women and femmes that have lived the Black Experience under patriarchy and capitalism.
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That’s normal when your nervous system begins to feel safer. You’ll be guided to move slowly, track your responses, and prioritize support when needed.
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No. This practice helps you become regulated, discerning, and grounded so your softness becomes a strength, not a liability.
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Yes. Once enrolled, the materials are yours to revisit.
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